How To Be In A Love Relationship That Is Perfect For You

How To Be In A Perfect Relationship.... is what you have asked every person who you interact with, and all because you seem to be confused about romance. I mean, you ask yourself all the times: Why do people lie in relationships?. And why can't they just love one person and be done with it?. Believe me dear friend, I am with you. But the main reason for all the troubles of relationships is that people do not know how to effectively communicate. You know the old saying: “ Say what you mean and mean what you say?. “

And all this stem from the ability to speak properly what is deep inside the heart, the mind along with the soul. For it has been said, whatsoever is inside a sponge when you squeeze it, is what will come out. Nothing else. Deep the sponge in milk, then squeeze it and only milk will come out. 

And the first easy way to be in a perfect relationship, is to always test someone's heart. 
I mean, squeeze that person and see what will come out. Because remember, “ Out of the heart the mouth speaks, “ even when only joking. So you test your lover or potential lover, by asking questions in different forms, different ways, and at different times – sometimes serious and sometimes jokingly. Because the heart and the mind are sponges once again, and what is inside them is what will come out - Always. Case and point: Once a cheater, always a cheater. Once a wife – beater, always a wife – beater. Once a filthy – mouth, always a filthy mouth. And how many times have you had someone at work who wanted to insult you deep from within their heart, and he or she used a joke to do it in front of everybody. That person used the “ Smart Politics “ to tell you what is in their heart. Because he or she knows that if you see through it and get mad for being insulted, then everyone around can see that this person was only kidding and make you out a monster. But if you take it well, then that person finally got to tell you exactly just how he or she feels using the power of words.

Second easy way to be in a perfect love relationship made just for you, is to “ Never Run From Yourself. “ 
And what I mean by that is, if 3 people you have been with who have never met each other, all tell you the same things as they are breaking up with you; then you have a problem in those categories. And you running away, to run into a new relationship is only taking you with you, and sooner or later whatever you were doing before will only be done again. So learn to “ Control Your Behaviors “. Notice I did not say “ Change.” Because people do not change, it's just an easy expression that people use, like: “ Oh I have changed. “ No my friend, what they are really trying to tell you is that, they have learned to control their behaviors and have set up safeguards to prevent them from acting that way. For even in the scriptures, God tell you to run from sins. Because He knows that once something is inside you ( Like a sponge ) then you will only keep acting it out over and over again. Hence this is why you do the things that you do over and over, and over again. So start today to set perimeters for the areas in your life that you have problems with. Kind of like an Alcoholic or a Drug Addict, they always do well when they set up parameters to protect themselves and control their behaviors. Like an alcoholic will not take the way home where there is a bar, or the drug addict will not drive by the neighborhoods where the dealers do business.  And that is how they are able to say they have changed, but again, only really learned to control their behavior. So do the same thing for yourself.

Third easy way to be in a perfect relationship, is to learn to communicate what is in your heart. And what I mean by that is, learn how to use the power of words to get what you want. Because believe it or not, people are dying to fall in love with you and stay in love with you each and every day. But you have to know how to draw that out of them, and you do that by always charming them. Come on now, you know very well what I am talking about; because remember the last time you wanted to get a job and how charming you were. Or the last time you wanted to get a big discount at a store, how charming you were. Or even the last time you needed a favor done, and how charming you were. And that is not because you are the smartest person alive, no friend, it is only because people have a built – in sensor from God that causes them to want to be praised, to be complimented. For even God is always looking for praise and worship, and He wants that by having your sincere heart speak praises and compliments to Him. Remember David in the Bible?, for God said: David is a man after God's own heart. So you have to start speaking romantically to the people you want to be in love with you, at all times. You have to use the power of words towards your destiny of happiness and great love. Remember the old saying: You can catch more Bees with Honey, then with vinegar. 

For Example, your lover is leaving you and you say: Well fine, Go on then, I do not need you. I do not need anything.  OR:   Sweetheart, how do I live without you, how am I supposed to explain this to my heart?. I have already written out our days of love, and I have carved our names in the tree of love to be together forever. And now that you want to leave me, my heart has not learned loneliness because you did not teach it to me. I can't function without your gentle guiding heart.   Now, which one of these 2 statements would make your lover say: I am sorry, I do not know what I was thinking.  And remember dear friend, that No One owes you anything. People like to be swept off their feet and they definitely like to be needed, I mean why do you think somebody will work 2 jobs while the other goes to school? Because the one working 2 jobs feel needed and appreciated, and so you must be romantic at all times. 

Let me show you how, as I help you with always speaking the right words as well always taking the right actions in your marriage, your relationship, your engagement, your dating and even your casual interacting. Remember once again, this is about the “ Meaning and pursuit Of Love... “ And to finally find the Adam Or Eve who was meant for you, and have perfect Love between just the two of you. Your Perfect Relationship Advocate, James Dazouloute

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